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How Clinique Deep Comfort Body Butter Caused Me To Stop Drinking Beer!

clinique-comfort-butterHere is a simple rule that will save you a lot of trouble: listen to your woman. Even a half-intelligent man knows this rule and tries to obey it more often than not. And for those of you who don’t, here are a couple of reasons why you really should. The first one is that you honestly don’t want to cause yourself too much inconvenience and friction and you should try to avoid it as much as you can. Married guys will especially appreciate this one. But the second and a more important reason is because she is probably right, most of the time. Let me share an event from my life that taught me this really valuable lesson.

The winter is upon us and I usually try to fix up those small nagging details around the house, you know, leaky roof tiles and such, before the real cold sets. To cut the story short, I worked for an entire weekend outdoors without my gloves on (because I misplaced them even though it was pointed out to me, repeatedly, where I should look for them).

As I ignored my wife’s suggestions through the entire weekend, there was already some friction between us. Naturally, as a result of my stubbornness, I ended up on a losing end of a fight and needed something to calm the situation down. To add insult to injury, I also suffered from severely dry hands, which was used multiple times to point out my poor judgment.

Well fellas, I found a perfect gift that can remedy situations like these. It can be used for any woman, regardless of the age and the nature of your relationship!

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I bought my wife this cream and needless to say, it got me back on her good side. That was until I blundered again. The gift that saved me also turned out to be my doom. The new argument was completely my fault because I delivered my “expert” opinion that all these cosmetic products are just well marketed and have no real effect. I even went so far to bet my wife that these things don’t work and that if she could prove me wrong, I would stop drinking beer ’till Christmas. Well, I no longer drink beer, but on the upside, I have the loveliest hands you will ever see on a man.

Lesson learned and let me once again state the obvious: LISTEN TO YOUR WOMAN.

Marko Lipozencic


Valentine’s Day – Send Your Valentine a Free Fancy E-Card!

These are very, very cute,  and can bring a smile to someone’s face !
Your Sweetie or friend could love you for it!
Happy Valentine’s Day!

Hold on!  This is not just for Valentine’s day anymore but for all occasions!


crawlingThis article was submitted as a comment originally. I decided to give it it’s own page. I think it is pretty good. – Dave


Prepare Emotionally for the Birth Experience That You Want – Writes Psychologist Susan Dalby.

Birth is such an extraordinary event for families and for the whole com-munity. We have come a long way, and it is now rare for women to die in childbirth. There are still, however, many unanswered questions. Why is birth still perceived as dangerous, when it is such a natural event and there has never been a safer time in history to give birth? Were we truly cursed by God in Genesis? These are questions that can become important for a woman, particularly after emergency intervention in the birth of her child. Birth is a rite of passage into womanhood and if unplanned major assistance is provided it is not uncommon for a woman to feel that she has perhaps failed. Unresolved relationship issues may also surface which can be detrimental to the birthing process while also be ing distressing. “What happened?” a woman may ask, or even “Am I fit to be a good mother?”

My own beliefs regarding child birth have developed from a life long in-terest that began for me in rural England, as a small child, watching farm animals as well as my own pets give birth. I was likewise drawn to the local women who regularly shared stories, not meant for my young ears.

This of course only whet my appetite further!

Telling ones story has, in psychology, always been the beginning of understanding and of healing. In my practice, in my research and now on my website I encourage women to share their birth stories. By sharing our words we open new possibilities for the entire community.

flying babyA growing body of research together with my years of experience, including working with post birth trauma, has led me to predict a swing back towards natural birth, and indeed a new psychological model for birth is now emerging.

The emphasis for those wanting a natural birth has been to be physically and mentally prepared. Caregivers often lack a psychological viewpoint and because of this I am often invited and consistently welcomed training and supervising medical staff in understanding the deeper emotional needs of mother and child at this significant transition.

Being psychologically prepared for the birth of a child is as important as the physical preparation! Your wellbeing in both areas requires planning and preparation. This will benefit both you and your child.

Hypno birthing, calm birth and an experienced Doula are all beneficial tools to consider for yourself. I will share with you my five golden rules of natural child birth;

1. Birth is a inward experience, such as meditation or prayer. Don’t have anyone present while you are birthing that you don’t feel totally com-fortable ignoring or who is going to distract you. Your partner may be better helping with preparing food for the next few days, answering and making phone calls cleaning house or keeping company with other friends and relatives. Can you meditate comfortably for an hour or more with your partner present without being distracted by their presence or them being hurt by you ignoring them? Even if you don’t meditate, try doing something like this with your partner to see if it feels comfortable. This can be a useful guide. Hypnobirthing is becoming very popular now and is very good for preparing both partners for the kind of state that a woman will deliver the most positive outcome for all in-volved . This can and should be part of your childbirth education or childbirth classes.

cartoon-babies2. Adrenaline slows and disrupts (and can even put a brake on) the sequence of natural body chemicals necessary for a smooth delivery and bonding between mother and child. Any issues of fear around the birth (experienced by either partner) need to be addressed well before time. The doctor, midwife or support per-son that you choose should be trained to help keep you calm and focused “inward” if you should be-come agitated or afraid.

3. Practice positions for first and second stage labour that you feel comfortable meditating or relaxing in. In the bath, in Open Lotus posi-tion, sitting up in a chair etc. Follow your bodies signals about what is comfortable. Feeling totally relaxed and no pressure on you to perform or give attention to others is powerful pain relief. Accept totally that your body knows what is happening and knows what to do. Birth is a neuro-chemical process, trust your body and let the process unfold.

4. Have a good relationship with your doctor or midwife who will be present at the birth. Make sure that they are aware of your intended ap-proach. Not all caregivers have had training in the positive psychology of birth, these ideas may be new to them and you may need to take some time choosing the right support. This is vital to you feeling safe and se-cure.

5. Resolve emotional issues with yourself and your partner before the birth. Do you long for more attention from your partner? The birth process is not a good time to look for this. Do you feel resentment or fear about your partner controlling or possibly abandoning you? These issues can arise during birth bringing unwanted adrenaline into the equation. If unre-solved they can get worse after the baby is born rather than better. There is wonderful help available for these and other unresolved emotional issues and needs. Start preparing psychologically for the best birth ex-perience for yourself as soon as you plan to become or become pregnant.

crawlingFor those who have suffered an in-vasive or traumatic birth in the past, understanding what happened and how it might have been different can be very healing. For Child birth edu-cation and childbirth classes visit for more information. For those with unre-solved emotional issues from a past traumatic birth experience help is available and will make you a stronger and more confident woman and mother.

Happy new beginnings.


My Second Wind

This site belongs to a friend of a friend. The about page says:

My Second Wind exists to inspire and instruct those who have suffered a relational loss, somewhat recovered, and are asking “Now what do I do?”
816-524-6786 ext 140


Bob Spaw
816-797-9516  cell
816-246-0897 Home

Hope this helps someone out there.

– dave

Infidels And The Cheaters Who Love Them

Have you ever happened across the Jerry Springer Show (I know this group can’t actually be Tivoing it or anything…too high class a crowd) and noticed how people who are cheaters can’t seem to venture too far from home? I mean, the “other partner” always seems to be drawn from a very shallow pool of best friends, sisters, brothers, father-in-laws, etc. All the time.

If you are going to cheat, at least get far enough from the nest that you at might have a fighter’s chance at not getting caught. Right? And good grief, does anyone ever think about how awkward the family time at Thanksgiving is going to be when all of the dust clears?

For the record, no. Cheaters don’t think about any of this stuff. There is no thought process there. Just the occasional adrenaline rush.


Practically speaking, cheaters are by definition non-thinkers. Consideration of details like process and consequences generally cannot be bothered with at all, let alone managed effectively in these situations. So then, it’s not surprising that cheaters tend to get found out…and lose.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not discounting the concept of someone wanting out of a dismal relationship so badly that they may actually want to get caught cheating, just so the burden of ending the relationship is on the other person. I’m sure that enters into it often, actually.

Heavy stuff. Or should I say, pathetic stuff.

Obviously I ruminate upon this sort of thing a good bit. I should, after all it’s my job to. But still, the concept of cheating on a partner in a committed relationship always causes me to rehearse the line, “what goes around comes around” just one more time.


Well, it’s simple. We as human beings have a pattern. Whether we like it or not, we tend to be painfully predictable. At the very fiber of our being, what makes up our moral core is going to dominate…every time.

So it follows logically that if you choose to cheat, you are going to live the life of a cheater.

Somebody reading this just said, “Duh.”

I couldn’t agree more. “Duh.” So what is up with all the cheating? There are clear consequences to living that lifestyle, and they basically involve getting what you deserve…infidelity. Essentially, if you build a relationship upon the premise of cheating, how can you possibly expect anything in the future but…more cheating? It has been said that after the first time cheating happens, it is forever easier thereafter to repeat the offense. I think there is decidedly some truth to that concept. Once conscience is breached, the proverbial Pandora’s Box is opened.

Suppose for a brief second that you are feeling bored, sick, unattracted and/or flaky toward you committed partner. You have an affair with someone who “floats your boat” more buoyantly. Yeah, well, both you and your new, apparently exciting friend are CHEATERS. And should you choose to leave your committed partner for your new friend, you will both still be CHEATERS.

The takeaway here is that both YOU and your PARTNER will have built whatever you build together upon CHEATING.

Did you get that? And guess what? You’ll do it again.

Like it or not, cheaters indeed keep cheating. Yours will be a relationship built upon dishonesty and lack of integrity. How do you expect such a union to last? Rest assured it will not.

Meanwhile, your spurned ex will be out deserving what he or she wants. A faithful partner is a good catch.

Will you be left wallowing in the error of your ways? Not if you deserve what you want today…and stay true to the partner you say you love. If there are issues, work them out. If you need to get out more together, make it happen. And if you need to break up an exclusive relationship, do so before heading on to “greener pastures”. The proper thing to do is break off one committed relationship before starting another. This is the only way around the cheating issue. And yes…if you are “separated”…consider thoroughly the importance of waiting until the divorce is final before dating other people. You are still married until that happens, and dating under these circumstances generally raises subtle doubts in the mind of those you go out with.

But for Heaven’s sake…whatever you do, don’t sleep with your brother-in-law just to make a point, okay? It’s not going to lead to happiness.

Posted By Scot McKay