Have you ever happened across the Jerry Springer Show (I know this group can’t actually be Tivoing it or anythingâ€¦too high class a crowd) and noticed how people who are cheaters canâ€™t seem to venture too far from home? I mean, the â€œother partnerâ€ always seems to be drawn from a very shallow pool of best friends, sisters, brothers, father-in-laws, etc. All the time.
If you are going to cheat, at least get far enough from the nest that you at might have a fighterâ€™s chance at not getting caught. Right? And good grief, does anyone ever think about how awkward the family time at Thanksgiving is going to be when all of the dust clears?
For the record, no. Cheaters don’t think about any of this stuff. There is no thought process there. Just the occasional adrenaline rush.
Practically speaking, cheaters are by definition non-thinkers. Consideration of details like process and consequences generally cannot be bothered with at all, let alone managed effectively in these situations. So then, itâ€™s not surprising that cheaters tend to get found outâ€¦and lose.
Now, donâ€™t get me wrong. Iâ€™m not discounting the concept of someone wanting out of a dismal relationship so badly that they may actually want to get caught cheating, just so the burden of ending the relationship is on the other person. I’m sure that enters into it often, actually.
Heavy stuff. Or should I say, pathetic stuff.
Obviously I ruminate upon this sort of thing a good bit. I should, after all itâ€™s my job to. But still, the concept of cheating on a partner in a committed relationship always causes me to rehearse the line, â€œwhat goes around comes aroundâ€ just one more time.
Well, itâ€™s simple. We as human beings have a pattern. Whether we like it or not, we tend to be painfully predictable. At the very fiber of our being, what makes up our moral core is going to dominateâ€¦every time.
So it follows logically that if you choose to cheat, you are going to live the life of a cheater.
Somebody reading this just said, â€œDuh.â€
I couldnâ€™t agree more. â€œDuh.â€ So what is up with all the cheating? There are clear consequences to living that lifestyle, and they basically involve getting what you deserveâ€¦infidelity. Essentially, if you build a relationship upon the premise of cheating, how can you possibly expect anything in the future but…more cheating? It has been said that after the first time cheating happens, it is forever easier thereafter to repeat the offense. I think there is decidedly some truth to that concept. Once conscience is breached, the proverbial Pandora’s Box is opened.
Suppose for a brief second that you are feeling bored, sick, unattracted and/or flaky toward you committed partner. You have an affair with someone who “floats your boat” more buoyantly. Yeah, well, both you and your new, apparently exciting friend are CHEATERS. And should you choose to leave your committed partner for your new friend, you will both still be CHEATERS.
The takeaway here is that both YOU and your PARTNER will have built whatever you build together upon CHEATING.
Did you get that? And guess what? Youâ€™ll do it again.
Like it or not, cheaters indeed keep cheating. Yours will be a relationship built upon dishonesty and lack of integrity. How do you expect such a union to last? Rest assured it will not.
Meanwhile, your spurned ex will be out deserving what he or she wants. A faithful partner is a good catch.
Will you be left wallowing in the error of your ways? Not if you deserve what you want todayâ€¦and stay true to the partner you say you love. If there are issues, work them out. If you need to get out more together, make it happen. And if you need to break up an exclusive relationship, do so before heading on to “greener pastures”. The proper thing to do is break off one committed relationship before starting another. This is the only way around the cheating issue. And yes…if you are “separated”…consider thoroughly the importance of waiting until the divorce is final before dating other people. You are still married until that happens, and dating under these circumstances generally raises subtle doubts in the mind of those you go out with.
But for Heavenâ€™s sakeâ€¦whatever you do, donâ€™t sleep with your brother-in-law just to make a point, okay? Itâ€™s not going to lead to happiness.
Posted By Scot McKay